S ocial skills are the ability we have to develop in familiar and social situations. Throughout the day and throughout our lives we constantly interact with other people and having good social relationships is an important basis for our adaptation and satisfaction.
Social skills are learned, not born with them. They are acquired throughout our learning with the family or at school but there are other contexts where one can learn these skills.
Deficits in social skills can lead to problems in our daily lives and can also be the source of problems for a couple. It is not easy to have social skills and less when we have been educated with some strict messages such as “it is wrong to say no”, then sometimes we will not be able to say no to a person for fear of being said to be selfish.
Knowing how to relate to the people we know and the people we just met. To know how to start, to maintain and end conversations, to ask for information, to accept a no for response, to do and to know how to receive criticism, to express positive feelings and comments, to know how to receive positive comments and feelings, to address conflicts, to stay calm, to be nice, to feel secure, to defend our rights when necessary, and to adapt to the role you have at that moment/place/person or to the expectations you have.
A ssertiveness is a form of communication that values the rights and views of others without being aggressive, or to allow others to grossly ignore or deny your own rights and views. Therefore it is the ability of a person to be respectful with ourselves and others. A person with a lack of assertiveness can be aggressive or inhibited. An aggressive person will not respect the people around them, they will blame others or threaten them. While an inhibited one will not be able to face a problem by not knowing how to say no, and will allow himself to be dominated and influenced by others.
A person is assertive when he respects himself and others in a proportionate and reasonable way, which means having a good self-esteem, having his own criteria and ideas, knowing and defending his opinions, as well as knowing and defending his rights, wishes and feelings.
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